Do you feel like you are in a rut and wonder how you'll ever get out?
Do you ever ask, is this as good as it gets?
Do you feel restless or discontent?
Are you tired of spinning in circles, putting out fires as they come and just barely getting through the day?
Do you feel like something is missing? ... Like maybe you've done something wrong or maybe you are just settling.
I'm about to share this biggest thing that has helped me get out of the trap of aimlessness.
Vision is the first step. With even the simplest of tasks, one always makes a plan. If you are going to the grocery store you, at the very least, will know how to get there and what you need to get. Yet so many of us wonder through life without a plan. Surely your life is more important than a trip to the store!
But with all the business of the day to day we can get sucked into a votex of the mundane. Just trying to stay on top of laundry, making meals and getting the kids to their swim lesson on time. In this vortex we can lose sight of what really matters to us.
But when we have a vision for our life, we make decisions based on what matters to us rather than just reacting to our current environment and circumstances.
For example, your teenager comes to you asking if they can join the club volleyball team, "all their friends are playing on the team" and you don't want them to miss out on any opportunities. You look at the calendar and with a sigh decide you can probably fit it in. At this point it feels easier to say yes than to disappoint your teenager and deal with them moping around.
Now, to be clear, club volleyball may be something that does align with your values. It very well might be something that is good for you and your family. You get to spend intentional time with your teenager, driving them to games and practices. They get to stay active and learn new skills. They may have a coach who is a really positive influence. If this is the case for you, then this is likely a good choice for you.
However, what if this activity takes away from time with the family. What if you value home cooked meals with the whole family, but this activity means you'll be on the road, eating fast food while the rest of the family warms up a frozen pizza two or three days a week.
When ever you say yes to one thing you are automatically saying no to something else. This is why vision is so important. When faced with any decision, we need to ask ourselves, does this bring me closer to the vision I have for myself and my family, or does it bring me further from it?